tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post9212269819206110454..comments2014-08-05T22:57:07.851-05:00Comments on Quizzical mama: when all men are potential pedophiles: the park & rec board weighs in on "proper swimwear"Annehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01216616459705692371noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-63233227174615939252012-11-15T19:30:27.701-06:002012-11-15T19:30:27.701-06:00It's not over! The pool manager and her superv...It's not over! The pool manager and her supervisor are going to revise pool policies in the beginning of the new year. I think what I need to do now is put a letter together opposing this and then collect signatures from parents in town. At that point, I would love your support in terms of a signature!quizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-40006671254232182022012-11-15T19:30:24.736-06:002012-11-15T19:30:24.736-06:00Is this issue "over"? What can I do? I...Is this issue "over"? What can I do? I want to do something. This is utterly ridiculous, and I can't do a topless day for my kids (as they are boys) and I'm not ready to do it myself - altho honestly, it would feel marvelous...Sklempnauernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-32218320650508232722012-11-15T19:29:40.632-06:002012-11-15T19:29:40.632-06:00Thank you! What a beautiful, inspiring and powerfu...Thank you! What a beautiful, inspiring and powerful little film that is definitely pertinent to this! Thanks for sharing.quizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-19343455709769615802012-11-15T19:29:36.676-06:002012-11-15T19:29:36.676-06:00And I do appreciate the incitement, Paul!And I do appreciate the incitement, Paul!quizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-51668538200279078282012-11-15T19:29:35.697-06:002012-11-15T19:29:35.697-06:00It does! Sometimes I feel so optimistic about the ...It does! Sometimes I feel so optimistic about the potential of positive change; especially after talking with friends and fellow feminist mama bloggers -- all the good people out there trying. But other times, like after opening the newspaper or going to a public meeting, I sometimes just feel like, what's the point? There's so much stupidity in our culture. It can feel overwhelming.quizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-38445133733301632962012-11-15T19:29:34.692-06:002012-11-15T19:29:34.692-06:00I'm sorry this has been so stressful and frust...I'm sorry this has been so stressful and frustrating. It sounds like talking to a wall (a very patronizing wall). On the one hand, you live in a weird little town full of, I'm afraid, weird little people: it's easy for part of my gut response to be "Ugh, that town ..." On the other hand, what you're experiencing is totally part of all the huge culture-wide problems you're describing, and it's probably not even all that surprising, and that just sucks even worse, doesn't it?Mollyhttp://www.firsttheegg.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-43857407792298993302012-11-15T19:29:33.667-06:002012-11-15T19:29:33.667-06:00This is a brilliant analysis of the situation. But...This is a brilliant analysis of the situation. But talking to these idiots further is a waste of time. I hope, nonetheless, that you will go over their collective very stupid heads. Or get some friends together, perhaps with young girls, go back to the pool, and ignore their unenforceable rule.Dr. Paul Rapoportnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-74742525715737229912012-11-15T19:29:32.640-06:002012-11-15T19:29:32.640-06:00Sing it sister!Sing it sister!Taranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-46753555136483624502012-11-15T19:29:24.620-06:002012-11-15T19:29:24.620-06:00http://youtu.be/oe_RP1HarAo is an excellent film a...http://youtu.be/oe_RP1HarAo is an excellent film about this subject. I think it's wonderful.Karki Meadehttp://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1017522898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-4416961581974526542012-11-15T19:29:10.608-06:002012-11-15T19:29:10.608-06:00Today's society is unable to assess safety and...Today's society is unable to assess safety and risk. Today, kids are not allowed to climb trees because they may hurt themselves. So they themselves lose the ability to assess risk. That does not make sense.<br /><br />Every day, many kids lose their lives in traffic accidents, but we don't ban kids from the cars and the roads. Many kids will get cancer directly from inhaling second-hand smoke, but we don't ban their parents from the right to smoke.<br /><br />Nudity does not make pedophiles do bad things. Pedophiles make pedophiles do bad things. How you dress does not make rapists do bad things. Rapists make rapists do bad things.<br /><br />This entire issue is not really about nudity, it is about power, certain parts of the community controlling how you behave. Certain cultures do this with "their" women, and we're starting to catch on.Mr Jonesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-23484051680184520912012-11-15T19:29:07.631-06:002012-11-15T19:29:07.631-06:00Thank you. Yes; SIECUS has documented that lack of...Thank you. Yes; SIECUS has documented that lack of knowledge--lack of sex education--leads to unsafer practices. Southern states continue to receive the highest amounts of federal abstinence-only-until-marriage funding, despite evidence that shows a larger percentage of youth in the South engage in riskier sexual health behaviors compared to the rest of the country: "Compared to their counterparts in the rest of the country, a larger percentage of youth surveyed in the South engage in riskier sexual health behaviors. For example, in 2009, all Southern states for which data are available report having a higher percentage of students who have had sexual intercourse prior to age 13; with Mississippi’s rate being the highest at 13.4%, over double the national average of 5.9%." <br /><br />Also; "Notably, California saw the steepest decline in their teen pregnancy rate between 1992 and 2005 (52% decline versus a national decline of 37%) and is the only state that never accepted federal abstinence-only-until-marriage funding from the failed Title V abstinence-only-until-marriage program. The state had ended its own experiment with ineffective abstinence-only-until-marriage programs in the mid-1990s, shifting its resources to comprehensive sex education programs." (<a href="http://www.siecus.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=Page.ViewPage&PageID=1265" rel="nofollow">SIECUS - Overview FY09</a>)quizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-31479001287831760872012-11-15T19:29:06.580-06:002012-11-15T19:29:06.580-06:00Stunned... Society today IS enforcing some very s...Stunned... Society today IS enforcing some very strange rules and demands...in the name of "safety". Making a young child cover up (or not) should be the decision of the parent or guardian. Watching out for sad men who have a serious problem - not easy - but thats the pool staff's job. Stretching my neck out a bit... this is one of the reasons we have educated and brought up our children to be natural - naturists - knowledgable of themselves and others. If we keep on covering everything up then they kids have to explore (underage) to satisfy their curiousity. Anyway....... I agree with the author completely - especially the last paragraphAjpoakleynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-66265620141213321082012-11-15T19:29:05.609-06:002012-11-15T19:29:05.609-06:00A friend already suggested we plan a topless day a...A friend already suggested we plan a topless day at the pool for all our children! Nothing came of it this summer; we'll see how the sentiment is among people next year.quizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-87997998194469194142012-11-15T19:29:04.580-06:002012-11-15T19:29:04.580-06:00You address really important points here! I agree ...You address really important points here! I agree with you and Paul. quizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-17865899287836254432012-11-15T19:29:00.594-06:002012-11-15T19:29:00.594-06:00By the same logic, we must assume that pedophiles ...By the same logic, we must assume that pedophiles will go after all kids regardless of their state of dress, in any location. ie. Kids must not go out in public. The dilemma is that most pedophiles are family members, so we can't keep kids at home either.<br /><br />Now what about potential murderers, potentially abusive family members, potential drunks, and people that smoke, all of whom are potential dangers to pretty much everyone, including kids.<br /><br />As Dr Rapoport suggests, set-up a group, with aims, which will have more clout that an individual. Nudity never hurt anyone in the history of mankind.Mr Jonesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3333156371815923125.post-35384334907955191732012-11-15T19:28:59.675-06:002012-11-15T19:28:59.675-06:00Thanks, my friend!Thanks, my friend!quizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.com